Some children are modeling what
they see at home. Do they have siblings who tease and pick on them? Are they
bullied at home? Or, at school? And now they are taking it out on another child
because they feel like they cannot do anything about their own situation?
Sometimes physical actions are a
result of emotional turmoil. These reactions can manifest as being mean to
other children, becoming bossy, or becoming withdrawn or needy. They may see a
parent favoring a sibling and therefore take out their agitation on that
sibling. Some children are treated poorly by an adult and have learned that
this is an appropriate way to act. If a parent yells and screams at you, there
is a good chance that you will yell and scream at someone else. This learned
behavior can take a very long time to change especially if the behavior of the
adult does not change.
A spoiled child may believe that he
or she is entitled to something that another child has and will take it from
the other child. This could be because they were never taught to share, or
because the adults did not set boundaries. If an adult allows a child to play
with anything they want and take things from the adult to play with, a child
will believe that this is the way to act with other children. If you allow a
child to take your phone and play with it, you cannot be surprised when they
then take someone else’s toy to play with. If you allow a child to your hair, you
cannot be surprised when they pull grandpa’s beard. There needs to be
boundaries and rules set for children to become productive adults.
They need to learn that life is not
always equal. Equal does not mean Fair. While it may be equal to give two children
the same toy, it is not necessarily fair. If I give one niece a doll and
another a toy truck, it is not equal. However it is fair because each got
something that they will enjoy. The one with the truck might not like dolls and
vice versa. This is something that takes a lot of time and patience to teach.
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